Can I upgrade DS216SE and DS218j and DS218 and DS218play RAM?
A simple answer to this is a NO. There is no physical slot for a RAM stick.
Why can I not upgrade RAM on Synology non-Plus models?
These NAS models have a very weak computing power and everything is so simple that it can be soldered on the board. With more powerful option you could usually see a cooling system on top of the processor or removable RAM sticks on the board. If there is nothing to remove from a board, there is nothing that can be replaced or upgraded.
How does it look inside the DS218 and DS218play or DS218j?
Which 2bay NAS can have a RAM upgrade?